Foreplay. What's not to love? It adds heat and suspense, flirtation and intensity. It teases you and gets you leaves you wanting more. If you were starting a relationship and your date just whipped it out-no explanation, no foreplay, no sweetness-just started trying to mount you while you were sipping your soda--well, I'd HOPE you'd be a little alarmed. No, people want to feel special. We want to feel sexy and loved. Well, so do our inner writers.
If your inner writer is just chillin out, going about her business and you try to ambush her into writing, she might get a little pissed off at you. Why should she write for you? Because your literary tits are larger than her ex's? Because you've got a big, bad, needy writer dick? I don't think so.
You have to initiate foreplay. This is how:
Remember the years of taking standardized tests? Sitting in overly bright rooms, watching the light glare against the too white walls? Yeah...that's really not sexy. Your inner writer does not want to feel like you're trying to make love to her in the middle of a mental hospital. You have to get her in the mood. Make an area just for the two of you. Dim the lights. Clean up a bit. Maybe light some candles. If she likes the sun, take her outside and set up a blanket or lounge chair or sit at a picnic table.
Put on something comfy, or sexy, or smart. Take everything off and wear nothing at all. Whatever works for you.
It doesn't matter what you listen to. Loud and fast, slow and sweet. Maybe just a nature tape of some waterfalls. Create a place that your inner writer would want to be.
Another option is playing something to inspire your characters. Play music that fits your characters' moods for the scene you're currently on. It will not only coax them to come out and play, but will help you get more in touch with them.
3) Find inner homeostasis
Sometimes, your inner writer needs something before you begin. Whether it's meditation, talking with a friend, rockin' out, drawing, playing with your kids...maybe it's a really BIG piece of chocolate cake. Maybe, it actually is sexual. Maybe, your inner writer has an intense need to masturbate. (I say masturbate instead of sex, because unless your partner is a writer or you're going for a true one night stand, usually the whole "Hey, can we just do it real quick, so that I can then leave you immediately to go write." thing doesn't fly...
The hardest one is when your inner writer can't be happy until you get other things done. You have to really know yourself if this happens, and either realize that your writing is also important and try to get it done or create a time management schedule. Whatever it is, make sure your inner writer is at peace before you start.
4) Literary Masturbation
I know that a bunch of you busy people or parents (aren't they the same thing?) are saying, "when will I ever have the time to do all that." Of course, there's always the option of scheduling it in to make sure it happens. However, here's another option: literary masturbation. Get it all out without a laptop or even a pen.
If you can, put on some headphones; if not, just go into your own little world. It doesn't matter if you're in line at the supermarket or waiting at the doctor's office, just let yourself go to your story. Imagine the scenes. See them vividly. What are your characters saying? Sometimes it helps to always keep things with you to aid the process: an mp3 player, a stress ball, a pocket notebook. If you can coax yourself there, into your safe place, into yourself, and take yourself to your story, then you will be more willing to go back to it later, will know exactly what you want to write, and will be able to write in less time when you finally have the time.
Follow these four simple steps and you'll be sure to be braingasming in no time. :-)
<3 Gina Blechman